Christian communities are expected to be our safest emotional and physical spaces. Even so, there are times this sacred space become toxic, abusive, and traumatizing to a church member when leaders and members of a congregation exhibit actions that fail to reflect the love of God. In the infographic below, four common ways church trauma is caused is identified and explained. I hope the information will help you understand what has happened to you or someone you know in church (or now no longer in the Christian community). The purpose of this post is to promote healing among those traumatized and to highlight practices that need to stop so that a Christian community is restored once again as the safest emotional and physical space for any child of God. As you continue educating yourself on church trauma and abuse, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. If you need to, seek a mental health professional to help you better understand your condition its impact on your relation
“Give me money for my birthday so I can buy books for me to read throughout the year.” That was my request for my birthday in January this year (2021). Less than ten responded but they gave generously. Now as I type this article, a day before 2021 ends, I am so thankful to report I was able to buy 17 books from Book Depository throughout the year with the money they gave! Though short of my goal – one book a week (so 52 books) – I was kept busy and stimulated with the books I was able to purchase. Here’s a rundown of the books that have been one of my best birthday presents: Dear Life by Rachel Clarke – a must-read book for all who will die especially at the beginning of the year, when you celebrate your birthday. It was a difficult book to read because I abhor death and the end of my sojourn on this lovely planet. Even so, die I will so I read this book by a doctor working in the palliative ward. The first time I saw this word was when I was undergoing chemotherapy for my cancer