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1 May 2017

YOUR DREAM REALISED (BY OTHERS)

How do you properly and biblically respond to news of others succesfully implementing plans, doing things and going places which so mirror your own aspirations and plans, while you are still (stuck) at step one? The twins Envy and Jealousy I find too often are the duo knocking at my heart's door (like the disturbing Mormons and Jehovah Witnesseses) and I am so tempted to let them in for a chat. Yest my good self says good riddance to the duo, urging me to practise the art of rejoicing over my brother's success and to give myself so many possible good reasons why it's okay to be a failure-in-waiting. Here's to all those who have succeeded first, well done.

LOOKING FOR A JOB

Now I realise how difficult it is to find a job and I may soon have to eat my own comments about those who still can't get a job. How do you start? Where do you start? Who do you see? Hmm, not done this for so long (maybe this the feeling those who after death of spouse or divorce, start dating again; such a bewildering space). They say do what you love and the money will come in. Nah, not really, especially when what you like doing has no paying customers. I have told jobless grads if they can't get a job to go create one. Easier said than done. Okay, enough said. Now to find income generating activities that suits me.

FACEBOOK FOOD

  • strawberry cheese chocolate cake
  • fried fish slices with mash potato and blanched vegetables
  • mangoes and durians
  • kelupis (see photo)
  • steamboat (lots of sea creatures)




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