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The scene from an investigation series on TV is forever etched in my mind.

Two cops at a bar (where else) discussing a recently solved murder case. One is perplexed as to how he didn't see the clues and solve the case while the other was able to gather the right clues and nail the murderer. Finally the cop who solved the case offered an explation:

If you ask the wrong questions, you get the wrong answers.

Ever since then, I have been aware of the power of questions, or more precisely the power of right questions, the kind that will give you the clues you are looking for, the information to solve a problem, the keys to unlock doors.

I am also aware of the amount of wrong or stupid questions that people ask, the kind that leads you on a wild duck chase, especially ones loaded with assumptions and wrong associations that lead to endless wranglings but no definite answers or conclusions. Too many such questions like these around.

One such question, I learnt about in Bible School, was a question theologians struggled with but never found a satisfying answer (because wrong questions lead you away from right knowledge):

Can God make a stone so heavy He Himself can't lift it?

So what kind of questions are you asking in school, in your workplace, in church, in life?

To ask is a wonderful privilige. Maximise the opportunity by asking questions that will delivers answers you need and give you information that will rock your world. Learn the art of asking wise questions.

There are three areas where improved “questioning” can strengthen managerial effectiveness; and it might be worth considering how you can improve your skills in each one. Read more here.

Do you know there are four type of questions? Find out more here.

And lastly, how do we get students to ask better questions? What if we start by asking them the kinds of questions we hope they will ask us? Here are some suggestions.

Enjoy asking questions, the kind that will open the windows of wisdom and give you the answers we need.


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