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Reflection - make time for it

Something I have almost never done but seems it is so necessary in my life - REFLECTION.
Here then are my notes and thoughts on this subject, based on an article I read.

So self-reflection is giving careful conscious consideration and an analysis of of my beliefs and actions for the purpose of learning. For this to happen I will need to pause, untangle and sort all my observations and experiences. Once done, I will need to consider multiple possible interpretations to create meaning of what I have been through. This meaning creates new mindsets and actions. Sounds exciting!

On why we don't reflect I liked two of the reasons given because they resonate with me.

  • I don't know how to reflect
  • I don't like the process and especially the results - the slowing down, the personal responsibility, the sense of vulnerability and discomfort and the noted weaknesses.
Even so there are steps to be taken (will try to do them):
  • Identify important questions (look up Pinterest)
  • Select a suitable reflection process that matches my preference (a quick look in Pinterest revealed some interesting methods; got to select one)
  • Schedule it (or it will never happen)
  • Start small - few minutes first
  • Do it
  • GET A PARTNER - to help me make the time, listen carefully, be a thought partner, hold me accountable. Hey you! Interested in helping me out?



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