Destructive self-talk and beliefs

Made aware I have very low self-esteem and a key contributor would be beliefs, conclusions and negative self-talk.
Here are some I caught myself saying to myself:

You are a failure like your father
You never complete anything you start. All half-bsked, incomplete projects
You are lazy
You so stupid
You always don't know what to do
You always do things wrong

No wonder this ship is sinking ...

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