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We soothe distressed babies & children; as adults we too need to be soothed when distressed. Distress tolerance skills (DTS) necessary to help you go through a crisis, or when you are not able to solve a problem or when you do not want things to get worse. Self-soothing (SS) is a DTS skill. you treat yourself with compassion, care and kindness you build resilience; bounce back faster useful when experiencing major stress or overwhelming emotions SS focus on your 5 SENSES - 'enjoyable sensory experiences' SIGHT - pretty nature spot, art, coloring SOUND - calming music, nature sounds, songs SMELL - scented candles, essential oils, cooking TOUCH - warm bath, soft clothing, brush TASTE - drinks, chocolate, delicious meal and ONE EXTRA KINESTHETIC  - rocking chair, pleasant stroll, playing Experiment, find what best fits you. Look for elements of warm, dark, quiet, mellow, sweet, soft, rhythmic, cuddly.   You may resist this because believe don...

Here are some good reads about depression: Are you depressed? Read this to find out.

A declaration of faith and hope: Money flows to me readily and easily. My life is like a large river being fed by multiple streams of money that are forever flowing. My life is bursting at the seams from all the money that comes into my life. My thoughts are focused on generating and receiving wealth. I deserve all the money that flows to me. I am constantly amazed at how money just seems to find me. It pops up in unexpected places. Seemingly hidden sources of money are available to me at all times. I merely need to keep my eyes open to see and benefit from these sources. I regularly find lost change on the ground. I know that by accepting these small tokens of wealth, I am able to also accept bigger opportunities to earn and receive greater amounts of money. Today, I allow more money to flow into my life. My resistance to money is completely gone. I am open to all the wealth and abundance that the universe provides. (Copy paste from here because it is exactly what I want to...

Something I have almost never done but seems it is so necessary in my life - REFLECTION. Here then are my notes and thoughts on this subject, based on an article I read. So self-reflection is giving careful conscious consideration and an analysis of of my beliefs and actions for the purpose of learning. For this to happen I will need to pause, untangle and sort all my observations and experiences. Once done, I will need to consider multiple possible interpretations to create meaning of what I have been through. This meaning creates new mindsets and actions. Sounds exciting! On why we don't reflect I liked two of the reasons given because they resonate with me. I don't know how to reflect I don't like the process and especially the results - the slowing down, the personal responsibility, the sense of vulnerability and discomfort and the noted weaknesses. Even so there are steps to be taken (will try to do them): Identify important questions (look up Pinterest)...

A good review and reminder of what I know and have preached (several times) in the past about tempting God from Matthew 4:7. To tempt God is to conduct an undue and unwarranted trial of God, concerning His power, goodness and greatness, from a position of unbelief and a demand from distrust , questioning the presence of God until see a supernatural proof of it. Throwing yourself  into voluntary and uncommanded dangers, then appealing to God for protection or trifling with His promises about His assistance in times of danger is a big NO NO. God aids His people who are placed by Him in trials and dangers and NOT those who do so unwisely or purposefully especially in order to tempt Him or prove Him and His Word. If there are stairs in a building you can take to go down, casting yourself from the top of the building because God has promised to protect you is presumption not faith, tempting God not trusting Him. "Do not question whether God will save you from dangers which y...

It all began when I caught myself saying to me: You are wasting money. You don't know how to use money. Don't use money. No wonder I have had a bad relationship with money. So I got thinking. What does it mean to waste money? How do I know I am wasting or not? What do I need to know and learn so I am able to declare I know how to use money. Why am I unwilling (afraid) to use money? The answers from Google were shocking and surprising as well as enlightening. I actually have a real legit phobia - the fear of money!

Notes and thoughts from my study of this article after I realized I lived expecting tragedies to always follow (happen). So I found out that catastrophizing is a form of anxiety, something irrational, based on false assumptions. Technically I have a cognitive distortion. What was scary that hit close to home was the notion it could be a symptom of trauma (tell me about it!) that stems from and breeds helplessness and hopelessness!!! Wow, immediately I was flooded with childhood memories of various forms of abuse and gripping fear that almost daily clouded my being. Talk about revelation. Talk about feeling helpless and hopeless as a kid. Anxiety - yup. It is also a way to prevent myself from loss. If I allowed myself to celebrate (which I don't), feel wonderful (happy etc., anything positive), I become fearful that it will be lost (soon). So I preemptively guard against the loss of joy. I anticipate disaster, failure and loss lurking in the bushes ready to pounce and drag awa...