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I Feel Good! You Better . . .

Getting things done. Not (only) the urgent but the important. Isn't that your dream too? A dream yet to see the light of day?

Well, it looks like the missing element is actually emotions, to be exact, good, positive emotions.

The right emotional state is the key to increased productivity and naturally, success.

If you are in a constant bad mood, doing the urgent and important gets pushed aside because your greatest hunger/need at that moment is to have a mood change, to feel good. So any thing promising fun and/or relief (a smoke, porn, a drink, any party, video games, YouTube videos etc) is given preference, distracting you from what you must or want to do.

Want to do what you want to do and not procrastinate? Be in the right emotional state.

Work on two things: being happy and being optimistic. They call this mental toughening - something I'm just learning about and wishing I understood and practiced from my 20's!

Here's one suggestion and I am beginning to work on it: recognise and celebrate small wins/success. Yes, small wins. You know, its tough for me to recognise progress, to see small wins. It's even tougher to celebrate them. But hey, if I am going to do it, I better get good at this - celebrating small victories.

How about you?

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